Erin Fettes (She/Her)

EMDR

I provide a type of EMDR called Attachment-Focused EMDR (AF-EMDR), developed by the Parnell Institute. If there are painful and disturbing memories, body sensations, or persistent symptoms that you would like to address related to your TTC experiences, this therapy modality is often highly effective at providing relief for traumatic stress and PTSD. Additionally, AF-EMDR focuses on building internal resources like calm, protection, nurturing, wisdom, all resources deeply helpful to those TTC.

Infertility

Infertility carries emotional, physical, and psychological burdens. What sets infertility apart is its profound intersection with identity, relationships, and societal expectations. Infertility often strikes at the core of one’s sense of self, tied deeply to personal and cultural perceptions of parenthood. Experiencing infertility often includes facing a lack of understanding and stigma. The toll of treatments and unpredictable outcomes can make infertility feel particularly relentless.

Loss or Grief

Pregnancy Loss - whether you have experienced a first time miscarriage, recurrent miscarriages, missed miscarriage, termination for medical reasons, ectopic pregnancy, threatened or inevitable miscarriage, stillbirth, or other loss, you deserve deep support and care. In psychotherapy I can support processing grief, sadness, anger, confusion, guilt, self-blame, creating understanding of events, coping strategies for overwhelming emotions, exploring meaningful ways to honor your losses and cope.

PTSD

I specialize in treating reproductive trauma (the emotional, physical and cognitive responses to a terrible event(s) or a series of chronically stressful experiences occurring in the context of reproductive efforts and trying to achieve pregnancy). Many of the experiences of TTC, infertility, assisted reproduction, and pregnancy loss can be unexpected, overwhelming and traumatic, and can/may lead to distressing memories, physical sensations, persistent beliefs, and other forms of suffering.

LGBTQ Issues

I work particularly well with LGBTQIA+ folks in the process of TTC, for example identifying the right path for you/your family to pursue parenthood, navigating the unique and complex barriers to care, with insurance companies, agencies, medical systems or providers, familial or society related discrimination and bias.