Portland Therapy Center
Erin Fettes

Erin Fettes (She/Her)

Clinical Psychologist

Psy.D.

Attuned Individual Psychotherapy and Support for TTC, Infertility, Assisted Reproductive Technology, Pregnancy Loss, and Reproductive Trauma

Client Status

accepting clients

Contact

503-212-4243

2250 NW Flanders St

Suite 105

Portland, 97210

Email Website

At a Glance

Me

Rate: $225-$250

Provides free initial consultation

Practicing Since: 2015

Languages: English

Services

  • Individual

Insurances Accepted

  • Out of Pocket
  • Out of Network
  • PacificSource
  • Regence Blue Cross/Blue Shield

My Ideal Client

You have dreams of adding to your family and along the way, you unexpectedly have to come to terms with an infertility diagnosis. Or you are experiencing the pain of miscarriage, pregnancy loss or termination for medical reasons. You are in the process of utilizing assisted reproductive technologies (ART) like IUI, IVF, or donor assisted reproduction. You are constantly analyzing, questioning, hurting, wondering what now. One thing is for sure - this is not how you thought this was going to go.

What I Specialize In

As a psychologist specializing in reproductive mental health, with my own experiences of infertility, ART and pregnancy loss, I understand the unique difficulties of this journey. A path marked by cycles of hope and heartache, as the anticipation of new possibilities collides with the anguish of unfulfilled dreams. My mission is to provide a compassionate environment for you to explore feelings, insights, hurts, choices and find resilience, support and care. My areas of focus: 1) Support with Trying to Conceive & Infertility - Psychotherapeutic support for the stressors of trying to conceive and navigating infertility. 2) Assisted Reproductive Technology - Care related to decision making for family building options, emotional support during fertility treatments, and the secondary mental health/relationship stressors that can arise. 3) Pregnancy Loss, Reproductive Trauma & EMDR - Support for addressing failed treatment cycles, pregnancy loss, reproductive trauma, grief and loss.

Why I am a Good Fit for You

I am a clinical psychologist practicing in Oregon and Colorado. I work with any individual in their experience of the trying to conceive (TTC) process, whether you are the one to carry the pregnancy or a non-gestational partner. The specific focus of my practice is rooted in support for hardships of TTC. I specialize in the needs of this special phase of family building. In addition to emotional support for the challenges of your TTC journey, I also focus on how these difficulties intersect with your treatment of yourself, relationships, prior/concurrent mental health needs, how early-life and formative experiences are impacting how you particularly are navigating these challenges. The present focus on my therapeutic work has personal roots. My therapeutic work has personal roots, with my own path of TTC experiencing many challenges - including queer family building as a fat person, using donor gametes, many rounds of IUI, IVF, failed embryo transfers, and pregnancy loss.

Techniques I Use

Specialties

  • EMDR External link

    I provide a type of EMDR called Attachment-Focused EMDR (AF-EMDR), developed by the Parnell Institute. If there are painful and disturbing memories, body sensations, or persistent symptoms that you would like to address related to your TTC experiences, this therapy modality is often highly effective at providing relief for traumatic stress and PTSD. Additionally, AF-EMDR focuses on building internal resources like calm, protection, nurturing, wisdom, all resources deeply helpful to those TTC.

Issues I Treat

Specialties

  • Infertility External link

    Infertility carries emotional, physical, and psychological burdens. What sets infertility apart is its profound intersection with identity, relationships, and societal expectations. Infertility often strikes at the core of one’s sense of self, tied deeply to personal and cultural perceptions of parenthood. Experiencing infertility often includes facing a lack of understanding and stigma. The toll of treatments and unpredictable outcomes can make infertility feel particularly relentless.

  • Loss or Grief External link

    Pregnancy Loss - whether you have experienced a first time miscarriage, recurrent miscarriages, missed miscarriage, termination for medical reasons, ectopic pregnancy, threatened or inevitable miscarriage, stillbirth, or other loss, you deserve deep support and care. In psychotherapy I can support processing grief, sadness, anger, confusion, guilt, self-blame, creating understanding of events, coping strategies for overwhelming emotions, exploring meaningful ways to honor your losses and cope.

  • PTSD External link

    I specialize in treating reproductive trauma (the emotional, physical and cognitive responses to a terrible event(s) or a series of chronically stressful experiences occurring in the context of reproductive efforts and trying to achieve pregnancy). Many of the experiences of TTC, infertility, assisted reproduction, and pregnancy loss can be unexpected, overwhelming and traumatic, and can/may lead to distressing memories, physical sensations, persistent beliefs, and other forms of suffering.

  • LGBTQ Issues External link

    I work particularly well with LGBTQIA+ folks in the process of TTC, for example identifying the right path for you/your family to pursue parenthood, navigating the unique and complex barriers to care, with insurance companies, agencies, medical systems or providers, familial or society related discrimination and bias.

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