Melissa Hartley (she/her)

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

There is a wise, core 'Self' to us all, along with other 'parts' which try to help, but can get forced into unhealthy roles in our lives. Parts associated with trauma are often pushed down or 'exiled' out of awareness. When they do emerge, other protective parts try to suppress them, blocking access to core Self, which could help them heal. Together, we can help all your parts access your core Self and work both together, and for you in an adaptive and sustainable way.

Feminist

I focus on the importance of empowerment and awareness of systems of oppression which impact people of all genders. What you can expect here is to be treated with respect, to have the whole person you are, your identities and lived experience, validated and welcomed.

Humanistic 

This shows up in the way I actively see you. You can expect me to be committed to giving you unconditional positive regard, meaning I will see you as inherently good, and accept you without any action or behavior needed on your part.

Polyamorous and Open Relationships

In my practice, I celebrate and affirm diverse relationship styles and structures. I believe the process of finding your ideals and learning along the way is unique to each person. I am here to offer support and a safe place to process in a non-judgmental setting. At Integrated Core Counseling, you can expect to be welcomed and affirmed in regard to your relationship style/structure.

Veterans/Military Service

I am experienced and knowledgeable about military culture and service. I have not served, but I do come from a military family, and continuously seek to improve my understanding of issues faced by active-duty service members, their families and veterans from each unique branch of the military.

Women's Issues

As a counselor with a Feminist focus, I place importance on empowerment, awareness of systems of oppression that impact people of all genders, and how that shows up in the content we discuss, as well as the relationship between us in our respective identities. You can expect safe space to talk about the differences between our identities in a respectful and affirming way.

PTSD

The impacts of trauma can feel incredibly distressing and disruptive one's life in a myriad of ways. My philosophy is that all trauma is valid and you can expect to experience very intentional care and a attuned pace in addressing it. Together we can identify, unpack and address issues related to trauma and focus therapy on feeling more grounded in the here and now.

LGBTQ Issues

I am an LGBTQ2IA+ affirming counselor. What that looks like in practice is acknowledging and learning from my mistakes, checking with my clients about whether they feel safe and affirmed in the counseling relationship, and continuing my education and growth in practicing inclusivity in my professional and personal life. There is safe and welcoming space in my office for all of your identities and ways of expressing yourself!