Patrick Bluett (he/him)

Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)

What behaviors in your life are not serving you? What thoughts create those behaviors? What beliefs do you have about yourself that influence those thoughts? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy provides one of the most well-researched, evidence-based treatments for a host of issues ranging from anxiety and depression to sexual issues and provides a fantastic structure for uncovering core beliefs and challenging thoughts that create harmful patterns and tear down relationships.

Attachment Theory

What did your earliest relationships teach you about love and intimacy? What patterns of behavior did you adopt in order to protect those relationships? How are those patterns serving you now? Adult attachment theory provides a valuable framework for understanding the ways that you form and maintain relationships in order to meet core emotional needs. Through therapy, we can identify patterns that might not align with your relationship values and learn better ways of finding and keeping love.

Mindfulness-based

You are not your thoughts. A thought is not a fact. When we learn to identify and sit with difficult thoughts rather than letting them take us for a ride, we begin to see that thoughts are like changing weather patterns. We become more aware, less attached and vastly more open to experiencing life by our own design. Mindfulness helps us identify the ways in which we are being reactive so that we can learn how to respond intentionally, making it a fantastic compliment to talk therapy.

Relationship / Marriage Issues

Working from an attachment lens, I help my clients uncover the ways their behaviors impede their ability to connect deeply with others and practice secure ways to improve their loving relationships. I work with individuals and couples to improve communication, behaviors and loving practices to develop partnerships that serve each individual and bridge gaps in communication and physical intimacy.

Sexual Problems

When men get caught in the idea of 'performance', they lose touch with the sensations that create pleasure and deepen intimate connection. When we are absent from pleasurable experience there can be devastating consequences for our relationship(s) and our personal wellbeing. I work with my clients to challenge the old paradigms and bring the focus back to connection and pleasure.

Polyamorous and Open Relationships

As a practicing polyamorous person, I have a wealth of personal as well as professional experience working with relationships in all sorts of non-traditional configurations. Whether you're opening up your relationships, negotiating your agreements or processing difficult feelings that come along with navigating polyamory or consensual non-monogamy, my work can provide a space of healing, learning and growth so that you and your partners have more resource to love and enjoy one another.